October 8, 2019

In BeCoach Academy one of our focus areas is leadership. I am exploring this topic more and more. And I think most of us think of military leaders, corporate executives or spiritual gurus when it comes to leaders. That does not feel right.

And yesterday I was working on my social media posts. I shared the little bits of recording of my interview with Maja Arsic.

I had asked her “what is your vision?”.

She had said: “Facilitating meaningful conversations even though they are sometimes difficult. If one person at least finds inspiration in the way I do things, that is already a big thing for me. That means I changed a life for the better. I like working with teams because my contribution is multiplied.”

That inspired me to write this:

Take Your Position

When we think about our lives, we usually think of ourselves as a single entity: I feel miserable in this job, this city does not feel like my home, I don’t have friends. And we want to change our state. We want to have better jobs, live happier lives and experience joy.

That is all good but we might be missing one important thing: the others and our connectedness.

What change can you make in your job and your life that will be beneficial to yourself, others and the world?

How do you want to contribute to the world?

What change do you want to lead?

These questions might sound arrogant for some, who were raised to be humble, to stay small, to not take attention. Some of you might not believe that they might change something in this world. But let me tell you, you can! And you should. That is your mission.

I shared this quote recently:

“You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.”- Woodrow Wilson

I deeply believe in this.

There are various ways of contribution and changing this world. Some of us will start protesting alone in front of a government building and then create a big movement for environment. Some of us will write a post about how we will in our miserable jobs and how we found one little outlet where we could shine light to others and to ourselves. Somebody reading this post will feel the light and feel a bit more hopeful. Some of you will decorate your balcony with beautiful flowers and make the day of the passersby, remind them the beauty, variety and resourcefulness of the nature. Some of you will make jokes and make people laugh, give lightness to the lives of others or maybe inspire some of us to have more humour in our lives and not take ourselves too seriously. Some of you will read a post and send a message to the writer saying how that made you feel and make the writer not give up on his dream. Maybe this writer will start her dream book, create a best seller and inspire hundreds of people in their lives and inspire many others to become a writer. Maybe you will give a hug from your heart to your friend feeling not at her best and make her feel loved and acknowledged. She will get better, and pass on the hugs to many others who will feel love and acknowledged.

You can vary these examples, you can take it to extremes but one thing does not change: Your action, your energy, your attitude have an impact on us.

What impact do you want to create?

What will you do?

How will you act and feel to create that impact?

Who do you want to be?

Your choice will make all the difference.

You are a leader.

Take your position.

I am so grateful that I have very generous people in my life. I started the day with a message from an old friend who wrote me she found energy in what I wrote.

In the afternoon I was chatting with another friend and in between the conversation she told me how much she loved my post today and she loves whatever I write.

In the evening I had a call with a friend who told me that she listened to both of my episodes and she found me as natural as I normally am and she really appreciates everything I do. How great are the people around me! Thank you for telling me that you see me, you value my work and you are there. I am grateful

Let me close the day with 3 trivial things I discovered today:

First: I ate a few pieces of Ritter Sport chocolate and wondered where the Sport came from. It was because they designed the shape to fit to sports jacket pockets.

Second: I spent some time watching the videos of Stromae – but mainly this one:

Third: (Actually feom this one I came to Stromae) I discovered a great poet, musician, actor, director, artist Saul Williams: https://youtu.be/eXfVIPqcF9I

I loved his words, I loved his protest, I loved his pain – which is actually our pain.

Later I watched a few more talks of him and one of them was in a record store, talking about what he bought. He had bought a Stromae album and spoke highly of him. So I had to check.

I am now closing the night here at 1:09 am and looking forward to day 53.

About the author 

Isil Uysal Calvelli

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